Sex Matters

One morning a girl in her late teens asked me, “Why wait until marriage to have sex?” After I answered her question, I realized it was time for me to read, Sex Matters, by Jonathan McKee. Had I read this book when I first purchased it, I could have given her more truths on the benefits in waiting for marriage to have sex.

Chapter one provides the answer both scientifically and biblical the benefits of waiting for marriage to have sex. Some of what is included I had not considered, but is perfectly logical. We are never too old to learn, as this book is clearly showing me.

Sex is not as easy topic to discuss with your children. Parents who read this book first will have a better understanding on how to approach the topic. Chapter 2 is titled; How Far? The author does an excellent job is answering the question, How Far Can We Go? He explains how sex is a process, and how it can escalate very rapidly. To remain pure, the draw of sexual temptation must be avoided at all costs.

Chapter three was titled Fleeing, Yes; it’s all about fleeing and resisting temptation that is spoken of in the Bible. The author gives advice to males and females on how to avoid it; and why they must. This book is written for young adults; but the message on fleeing and resisting temptation applies to Christians of all ages, not just the young people. The discussion questions provided enable the reader to answer for themselves.

Chapter 4’s focus is on the lure of porn and masturbation. The author shares candidly about porn because it’s so prevalent today. It’s everywhere! He gives great advice for those seeking to flee from the grip it has on their lives. He addresses the issue of masturbation too. The question is asked: Is lust involved? Again, there is no condemnation, only sound advice to help those who seek it.

The author has been involved in Youth Ministry for over 20 years. Chapter 5 – Tough Questions is very insightful. Questions such as: How do I break out of an unhealthy cycle of sexual activity?; What if I don’t get married? Does that mean I will never have sex, ever?; Is it wrong if I’m attracted to someone of the same sex? I appreciate how the author addressed these questions and all the others in the chapter.

In the last segment of the book, Finale The Journey, the author brings together the true reasons God designed sex for the marital relationship. He gives encouragement to those who may believe they messed up. With God, beginning afresh is always possible. In Worth the Wait, he shares the key that will enable couples to remain pure until marriage. A decision, he assures they won’t regret.

I highly recommend Sex Matters by Jonathan McKee. As I read this book I thought about my own youth, and how a book like this one could have helped me make better decisions. Perhaps God is giving me an opportunity to help someone else make better choices for themselves!

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